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Just for Today

“What day is it?” asked Pooh.
“It’s today,” squeaked Piglet.
“My favorite day,” said Pooh.”     

― A.A. Milne

What does it mean to live just for today?
Just for Today-thinking reminds us that, we are expected no more than to do the things that we are able to do today.

By limiting our horizons to the next few hours, we will do, feel, say, or think ONLY what we are able to manage for this short period of time.
“Just for today” applies to all areas of our lives, as reality has to be dealt with on a daily basis.

“Just for today” way of thinking is very much rooted in yoga philosophy, and it allows us to live more at ease, with less worry, and less self-inflicted pressure. Living, just for today it is the most effective and quickest way of relieving stress, depression, and anxiety. We can adjust our attitudes to  self-care of a healthy lifestyle by  showing gratitude, managing emotions, and controlling fear,  so we are better prepared to handle the challenges of our lives.

We can find fulfillment and peace in living just for  today. Below are 7 coaching steps for you to start:

1)  Stay present. Be mindful to avoid ruminating about yesterday or obsessing about tomorrow.

2) Live for this day only and don’t try to overcome all your problems at once. Know that you can do something for 24 hours that would overwhelm you if you had to keep it up for a lifetime. Do not set far-reaching goals or try to overcome all my problems at once.

3) Improve what you can:  improve your mind by reading something that requires effort, thought and concentration. Do something positive to improve your health, improve your appearance, your  mental habits and your behaviors .

4) If you failed today, try again tomorrow. It’s all about a fresh start every day. If you failed to get things done today, then forgive yourself and move on.  If you didn’t fail, give yourself a high five and do it all again.

5)  Accept what is, and gather the courage to face reality. Do your best to correct those things that you can correct,  and accept those you cannot.

6) Be happy,  do not dwell on thoughts that put you down. When your mind fills with clouds, chase them away and fill it with sunshine.

7)  Block Out “What Ifs”: “what ifs” are the catalysts of worry  because they are  based on a “tomorrow focused” mindset.  Do your best to focus on the day you’re in, and deal with what you can control at the moment. Remind yourself that worrying about what might or could happen will do precisely nothing to change the future, it will only make you miserable now and divert your attention from being able to be present on what you need to do today.

Resolve to live just for today. The time is now. This is your present!

Please remember to let me know how these coaching tools work out for you.

With Love and Gratitude,

Veronica 

Healthy Mindset

Scientists estimate humans have about 70,000 thoughts per day. That means we have 70,000 opportunities either to make ourselves stronger or to tear ourselves down. Our thoughts greatly influence how we feel and behave. In fact, our inner monologue has a tendency to become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Thinking things like, “I will never get hired for this job,” or “Nobody ever listens to me,” can alter our behavior in a way that makes those predictions come true. Simply paying attention to the way we think and taking charge of what occupies our mind, establishes a healthy mindset –  the key component to a healthy body, healthy relationships, and a healthy life.

Read on 8  Life Coaching tools proven  to promote a healthy mindset starting right now:

1) BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.  A healthy mindset starts by believing and supporting yourself.  Refuse to succumb to the downward spiral caused by unhealthy self-judgment and self-doubt. Push out negative self-talk,  and replace it with positive thoughts about who you are and what you deserve. Talk to yourself like a trusted friend.  Ask yourself, “What would I say to a friend who is going through what I am going through ?” And then, offer those kind and gentle words to yourself. Commit to fully accept yourself and embrace who you are, with loving-kindness and compassion.  Then, make choices that reflect that self-love.

2) QUESTION YOUR THOUGHTS and don’t believe everything you think. Pay attention to the tape loop of chatter within your mind and notice how that sort of thinking fuels mood imbalances like anxiety, fear, and lack of confidence. You can’t shut down your mind, but you can detach, and not believe every thought you have. “A thought is just that — a thought,” says Thomas A. Richards, Ph.D. and psychologist, “It has no emotional content attached to it. Observe and then dismiss the thought.”

3) FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE. Negativity will not help you overcome challenges or achieve personal growth. While you want to stay realistic about situations,  look for ways to focus on the positive aspects, and explore healthy solutions. Find the silver lining, even in the most difficult circumstances.

4) FACE UNCOMFORTABLE FEELINGS HEAD ON. Avoiding emotional discomfort is usually a short-term solution that leads to long-term problems. Anger can turn to bitterness, and mild anxiety can become paralyzing fear. For example, people who fear failure often avoid new challenges in an effort to keep anxiety at bay.  In order to heal and gain more confidence, practice tolerating discomfort, one baby step at a time.

5) PRACTICE GRATITUDE. Research shows gratitude cultivates well-being while decreasing emotional fluctuations such as anxiety and depression. Gratitude can even help you sleep better and wake up more refreshed. Expressing gratitude can take many forms. You can reflect on the positive aspects of your life, keep a gratitude journal, give someone a meaningful “thank you,” and even find lessons to feel grateful about from challenging situations.

6) PRACTICE MINDFULNESS.  Follow the sensation of your breath as it goes in and out your nose. Don’t judge yourself nor obsess over the content of the thoughts. Just keep coming back to observing the sensation of your breath. For a healthy mindset, live in the present, and slow down to enjoy each moment.

7) PRACTICE YOGA. Regular practice of yoga is proven to release muscle tension, improve blood circulation, increase oxygenation, and help implement relaxation techniques that balance mood,  reduce anxiety, and manage depression.

8) LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES.  Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Instead, see mistakes as opportunities to learn so you can do better next time. Once you’ve absorbed the lesson from the mistake, don’t dwell on it, just move on and say, “What’s next!”  Don’t hold back or hold things in to avoid mistakes. Accept challenges and failures as part of developing better skills.

Only you can cultivate your healthy mindset. You won’t regret it, it is such an important task for living a healthy and happy life. Take it slow, be consistent, and always lean toward self-love and forgiveness. Before you know it, you’ll read through this list and realize you’re doing it.  Believe in yourself and know you’re worth it!

My Love to YOU,

Veronica

Finding Inner Peace

Inner peace is an internalized state of spiritual and mental calm, and it is not something we can just turn on, nor decide to do, and then do it. Inner peace is a lifelong journey that requires a lifetime commitment.

The search for inner peace must be an active part of our lives, because when the noise in your head quietens, then, the tangles of threads start coming apart, allowing us to see the space between our thoughts for the first time.  With so many distractions and interruptions posing to intrude in our lives, inner peace is the reliable inner temple, we can go to, to re-set our minds, and our spirits,  and actually reconnect with our true essence.

Inner peace is a process that provides us the silence we need to accept everything — our life, our career, our body, our everything — so we can truly and actionably continue growing better, and moving forward.

Below Find 9  VeroLifeCoaching Tools To Pave The Way For Inner Peace: (Join our daily online yoga session click here)

1. Accept what cannot be changed. This saves a lot of time, energy, and worries.  Work hard to change what must be changed, and if this is not possible, work hard to find acceptance, strength, and gratitude.

2. Cultivate patience and healthy tolerance with family, friends, co-workers, employees, and everyone else. Expressing patience and tolerance toward others is as good for others as it is for ourselves, because it enables us a peaceful state of mind and heart, even in stressful situations.

3. Don’t take everything too personally. A certain degree of emotional and mental detachment and non-involvement is a sure way to bring into our life more tranquility, lightness, and common sense.

4. Avoid overthinking,  and too much analyzing of every situation. Be aware of running from one thought to another, constantly ruminating about some past incident,  and what people said or did.

5. Keep a focused mind.  Focusing the mind makes it easier to reject worries and anxieties, and to reduce the constant chatter of the mind.

6. Commune with Mother Nature-Get out for a 5 minute walk every day. Set the intention to be mindful of the green trees, the flowers, the birds, the sky, the breeze kissing your skin. You will come back recharged, and calm.

7. Read uplifting literature. Before going to bed, read something motivational or inspirational. It calms your mind, uplifts your spirit, and will even help you to get a good night’s sleep.

8. Practice meditation, even just a few minutes a day will make a difference in your life. You will become more peaceful, relaxed, and happier.

9.  Develop your spiritual practice.  Make time to connect to your understanding of a Loving Higher Power, and release your worries. Trust you’re not alone. Trust there’s a Higher Power with a Higher Purpose. Be like a child in the hands of a loving parent, where you can relax your mind, emotions, and soul.

Finding inner peace is a process that requires dedication, awareness, and patience. A process well worth the investment to achieve that state of tranquility and quiet in spite of the circumstances.

Give these coaching tools a fair try and let me know how they work.

With Love and Gratitude,

Veronica

Cultivating Contentment

According to Swami Sivananda, the cravings will always try to place themselves at the forefront of our minds. We are flooded with marketers, friends, family, our culture, and our own ambitions , to do more, be more, see more, acquire more. So long as we can recognize the bombardment and not fall prey to it, we will open the door to observing how magnificent contentment can be. And the magnificent realization is that contentment can be found in  our every day reality. Thus happiness can be found readily at our fingertips no matter how outstanding, or lack thereof, our lives look to the outside world.

“There is no end to craving. Hence contentment alone is the best way to happiness. Develop contentment.” Swami Sivananda

The next question then, is how do we find this contentment and how do we maintain it?
Below I share 8 live coaching tools for cultivating contentment:

1) Practice gratitude
Being grateful for our lives exactly as they are right now, provides a mindset of knowing that things are not nearly as bad as we sometimes make them out to be. It allows for the realization that, although things could be better, they are manageable for the time being. It is impossible to develop contentment without gratitude—they are inseparable. focus on the good things in your life, not the things you lack. The simple discipline of engaging in gratitude will undoubtedly shift your focus back to the many good things you already have.

Make a commitment to practice gratitude by letting gratitude be the last thought before you fall asleep, and your first thought when you wake up in the morning.

2) Ask yourself what is going well
So much goes well in our lives, each and every day, that is easy to become desensitized and accustomed to how fortunate we are. Recognize the countless details you take for granted. What is working well in your life today?

3) Be content with what you have, while you continue to grow.
Do something that keeps the flames of your dreams and hopes alive. Take pride in your person-hood and the progress that you have made so far, and continue improving. Contentment is not the same as complacency. Contentment invites you to always keep growing. learning and discovering.

4) Shift your perspective
Develop the habit of seeing the positive side of things – specially of all the bad things that happen.
Start by recognizing negative thoughts as you have them. Then, take a step back and ask yourself these key questions:
• Is the situation, really as bad as I think it is?
• Is there another way to look at the situation?
• What can I learn from this challenging experience that can help me evolve as a person?

5) Find your purpose
Are you engaged in something you love? If not, ask yourself these questions to discover how you can find your purpose:
• What excites and energizes me?
• What are my proudest achievements?
• How do I want others to remember me?

6) Take control of your attitude.
A person who lacks contentment in their life will often engage in “when… and… then” thinking – “when I get _______, then I will be happy.” Instead, take control of your attitude. Contentment is finding satisfaction in your life as it is in the present moment, regardless of the circumstances.

7) Stop comparing yourself to others.
Comparing your life with someone else’s will always lead to discontentment. “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”. There will always be people who “appear” to seemingly be living the perfect life. You are unique. You are special. Affirm that your life is awesome in its own way.

8) Live in the moment
Focus on the positives in the present moment, instead of dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. Don’t postpone joy waiting for a day when your life is less busy or less stressful.
Instead, look for opportunities to savor the small pleasures of everyday life.

Choosing to live a life of contentment is up to us, and not of our circumstances. Commit to implement the mindset of the above recommendations,  and let me know how you feel after a 30 day period. What changes do you see in your day to day? What impact do these new attitudes have in your loving relationships? How do you feel at the end of each day?

Keep me posted, I care !

Much Love and Gratitud,

Veronica

Accepting Change

Why must things change? Why can’t everything stay the same? Sometimes we wonder…

Do you find yourself continuing to fight against change and resisting situations that lead you to a different path?

We constantly face all kinds of changes; some good, some challenging, and some hard that are forced upon us….

So, we all know that change is inevitable and necessary … but nevertheless, we resist. Do you know why? Fear is the main reason we cannot accept change, fear of the unknown, fear of the uncertainty.

Accepting change, therefore, is not sudden thing we do; it takes many stages of personal transition to find the courage and face our fears. As we allow ourselves to turn through the changing curve different stages, we enable ourselves to move positively forward, where acceptance is the ultimate outcome.

Why is it important to accept change?

Accepting change allows us to adapt better to the situations and become more flexible. Accepting change opens the door to countless blessing and possibilities. And the better able we are to accept change in what is happening in our world, the easier it will be for us to live our best life.

How to start accepting change?

1) Surrender to the words: “I don’t know.”

When you surrender to “I don’t know what’s next.” you open yourself to the endless possibilities that will come. If you allow the space and patiently sit in the “I don’t know” area—which Buddhists call “nothingness”—then, something beautiful will be born.

2) Ask yourself: “What is the opportunity here?”

If you look, you will find it, and change will become something to appreciate and embrace rather than to fear and resist. Remind yourself that , you always have control over how you choose to respond to things. When you respond with an attitude of curiosity, and optimism, you’ll find it so much easier to deal with and thrive during the change.

3) Stay moving.

When things in our life change, it is easy to freeze and stop everything. Take some time to mourn, but then keep moving. Even if you don’t know what’s next, be it in work, health, or love, explore and stay curious. It’s easy to want to just hide under the covers, so do that a little, then take a hike, sign up for a new experience, do something, stay in motion.

4) Lean on your practice.

Consult with your higher-ups (your faith, your guides, your meditation, your breathing techniques, your yoga practice, and your prayers, …whatever you turn to when things get difficult.)

5) Externalize the change.

This one will help you embrace change at a deeper level. Something as simple as getting a haircut, change the arrangements of the furniture around your room, or painting the wall with a different color will reinforce your changes to translate to your surroundings.

6) Allow yourself to feel the fear – and don’t let it stop you.

Give yourself permission to acknowledge and experience whatever fears show up along the way, and then take action anyway. Take one small baby step after another into the unknown – and you will be surprised at how quickly the path forward will become clear to you. Approach the change with both fear and courage – and consider that this may be the best thing that’s ever happened to you.

How to Live “One Day At A Time”

By Veronica Vidal

What does it mean to live one day at a time?

One-day-at-a-time-thinking reminds us that, by limiting our horizons to tonight, we will do, feel, say, or think ONLY what we are able to manage for the next few hours.

This principle of living in the moment is very much embedded in yoga philosophy, and it is the absolute best, most rewarding, most effective piece and quickest way of relieving stress, depression, and anxiety. This way of thinking allows us to live with more creativity, more ease, and less worry less stress, and less self-inflicted pressure.

Taking it day by day means reducing the degree of control we expect to be able to bring to bear on the uncertain future.

Start from today living one day at a time, even if you are not particularly enjoying it, even if you are living through difficulties. Facing your reality just one-day-at-a-time will enable you to cope with it much more easily, thus moving into the future with strength, dignity, and hope.

Resolve to do this each day. Remember this is a new beginning. Start now. The time is now.

This is your present!

Here are 6 practical steps for living “One Step at a Time”

1) Stop the thoughts that don’t belong in the present. The past has gone and the future is not here yet, so prepare responsibly and positively for the future by living positively in the here and now. Focus on everything that you do, no matter how mundane. Attempt to concentrate on each moment as it presents itself to you. Be mindful of checking frequently that your thoughts are not dwelling on the past or racing ahead to the future. If you find that they are, STOP – and gently bring your attention back to the present, focusing on where you are, what you are doing, and what is happening in the here and now.

2) Do your best to remain positive, especially if your reality “here and now” feels unpleasant. Remind yourself that nothing lasts forever, nothing ever stays the same; life is constantly changing programs. Stay open to the fact that every day is different, every day something new happens. Affirm that things can get better.

3) If you failed today, try again tomorrow. If you didn’t fail, give yourself a high five and do it all again. So, if you’re taking it one day at a time, is there room for mistakes? There will have to be, you’re a human. Maybe you’re taking things ten minutes at a time, and you failed. Try again for the next ten minutes. If you failed to get things done today and instead watched a full day of TV and wallowed, then forgive yourself and move on tomorrow to your task list. It’s all about a fresh start every day.

4) Instead of focusing on the end result, focus on the next step. There are times in life where we have to really break things down to simple increments. When we are trying to change our lives completely, we may need to do just that. It’s much easier to focus on a piece of the puzzle than looking at all the pieces at once and having them put together in one fell swoop. We put together puzzles piece by piece, such is the way of life as well.

5) Make a list of Things That Aren’t Worth Worrying About. To help live one day at a time you can make a list of things that are not worth worrying about, and then do your best to avoid those thoughts during your day. If you do feel that you need to think about a worry then write it down and let yourself consider it for 5 minutes at the end of the day. After those 5 minutes, discipline to put it out of your mind. Remind yourself that worrying about what might or could happen will do precisely nothing to change the future, it will only make you miserable now and divert your attention from being able to be present on what you need to do today.

6) Block Out “What Ifs”. Along with worry come to a lot of “what ifs.” To avoid all these “what ifs” avoid having a “tomorrow focused” mindset. If you focus on the day you’re in then most what-ifs become obsolete.

Learn to live one day at a time and it will bring more productivity, joy, and calm, into your life.

Continue to stay safe, strong, and serene as we transition to our new normal.
Your loving support, referrals, and loyalty fill me with immense gratitude.

With Infinite Love

Vero Vidal
www.VeroVidal.com

WOHASU 2018 – ‘What Is Yoga?” by Veronica Vidal

Veronica Vidal is a Fellow Founder and  the Chair of  the Global Yoga Community Board  for The World Happiness Summit 2017, 2018 (WOHASU) 

In this video presentation Veronica explains what is Yoga and why practice Yoga as an integral part to find happiness ? 
“Happiness is a choice that one needs to cultivate, and yoga is a powerful tool to sustain happiness, as well as to become resilient to the inevitable vicissitudes of life.”