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Accepting Change

Why must things change? Why can’t everything stay the same? Sometimes we wonder…

Do you find yourself continuing to fight against change and resisting situations that lead you to a different path?

We constantly face all kinds of changes; some good, some challenging, and some hard that are forced upon us….

So, we all know that change is inevitable and necessary … but nevertheless, we resist. Do you know why? Fear is the main reason we cannot accept change, fear of the unknown, fear of the uncertainty.

Accepting change, therefore, is not sudden thing we do; it takes many stages of personal transition to find the courage and face our fears. As we allow ourselves to turn through the changing curve different stages, we enable ourselves to move positively forward, where acceptance is the ultimate outcome.

Why is it important to accept change?

Accepting change allows us to adapt better to the situations and become more flexible. Accepting change opens the door to countless blessing and possibilities. And the better able we are to accept change in what is happening in our world, the easier it will be for us to live our best life.

How to start accepting change?

1) Surrender to the words: “I don’t know.”

When you surrender to “I don’t know what’s next.” you open yourself to the endless possibilities that will come. If you allow the space and patiently sit in the “I don’t know” area—which Buddhists call “nothingness”—then, something beautiful will be born.

2) Ask yourself: “What is the opportunity here?”

If you look, you will find it, and change will become something to appreciate and embrace rather than to fear and resist. Remind yourself that , you always have control over how you choose to respond to things. When you respond with an attitude of curiosity, and optimism, you’ll find it so much easier to deal with and thrive during the change.

3) Stay moving.

When things in our life change, it is easy to freeze and stop everything. Take some time to mourn, but then keep moving. Even if you don’t know what’s next, be it in work, health, or love, explore and stay curious. It’s easy to want to just hide under the covers, so do that a little, then take a hike, sign up for a new experience, do something, stay in motion.

4) Lean on your practice.

Consult with your higher-ups (your faith, your guides, your meditation, your breathing techniques, your yoga practice, and your prayers, …whatever you turn to when things get difficult.)

5) Externalize the change.

This one will help you embrace change at a deeper level. Something as simple as getting a haircut, change the arrangements of the furniture around your room, or painting the wall with a different color will reinforce your changes to translate to your surroundings.

6) Allow yourself to feel the fear – and don’t let it stop you.

Give yourself permission to acknowledge and experience whatever fears show up along the way, and then take action anyway. Take one small baby step after another into the unknown – and you will be surprised at how quickly the path forward will become clear to you. Approach the change with both fear and courage – and consider that this may be the best thing that’s ever happened to you.

Finding Your Inner Strength

by Veronica Vidal

Inner strength is a deep, unstoppable belief in yourself. It doesn’t depend on the actions of anyone else, and it doesn’t depend on your circumstances.

Finding inner strength is a must for your well-being. It will give you the ability to overcome obstacles and bounce back from failures – because failures are inevitable. However, it is inspiring to know that you really can do something to make yourself stronger. Since part of survival is accepting that you cannot change outside circumstances or people, it is imperative to accept and feel empowered by the realization that you can transform yourself.   It’s a superpower!

Here are some pointers to help you get there.

1) Don’t let the fear factor into your decision making
Some of us reject opportunities because of the fear that we can’t do it or fear that something might go wrong.  When considering the pros and cons of our decisions, we must be self-aware, too. Are you identifying risks or being just plain fearful? If fear is keeping you from the next step/adventure/challenge, then you are allowing it to defeat you. Fear can make you be your own worst enemy, getting in the way of your growth, development, and potential.

2) Embrace what scares you
This means proving that you can take on immense challenges, which will yield increased confidence and inner strength. Life can be a constant struggle between what you don’t think you can do (and remain in the status quo) and what you absolutely can do (progress). Inner strength comes from doing what you thought you couldn’t do. When you came out of your comfort for a challenge, change happens and the result is a better, stronger you.

3) Clear your mind
Even a few minutes of meditation a day removes the mental clutter that depletes your energy. It restores focus and clarity. People who meditate are one step ahead of others. Their minds move faster, they are mentally more clear and much more decisive.

4) Discover your purpose
Purpose is a component of inner strength. Ask yourself “Why?” Then find your answer. Greater focus on purpose cultivates the strength and motivation to tackle setbacks. When you find your purpose, inner strength naturally follows.

5) Let go of the past
Stop feeding yourself dis-empowering stories of past mistakes and failures. Change the script in your mind and only allow positive thoughts.

6) Look back on your survival instincts
Remind yourself of times when you survived, got through challenges, and even surprised yourself. See strength in your own abilities and fighting power. Don’t underestimate your own resilience. You have roared before and will roar again.

7) Develop and nurture a spiritual connection to a higher power, a purpose greater than this
Ask for spiritual guidance, comfort, and grounding in your journey. Stay open to receiving divine gifts in the most wonderful, surprising ways, and believe that you deserve them when they show up. Meditate. Pray. Be mindful. Trust that you are going to move past this thing and that the universe wants that for you as well.

Yes, it does. And yes, you can.

Continue to stay safe, strong, and serene as we transition to our new normal.
Your loving support, referrals, and loyalty fill me with immense gratitude.

With Infinite Love

Vero Vidal