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Living On Life’s Terms

What does living life on life’s terms mean?

In a few words, living our life’s on life’s terms is basically the acceptance of who we are, with our desires and dreams, while honoring the mystery and vastness of fate.

When fate is an impediment to our desires, we get the amazing opportunity to learn. We get creative, discover and new avenues to get us what we want. We learn about love, compassion, self- awareness, forgiveness, patience, and faith.

Living on life terms means realizing that we cannot avoid suffering, trials and losses, but we can find meaning in them to move forward with renewed purpose and more serenity.

What abilities do we need to cultivate to be living on life’s terms?

1) Discernment: We need to cultivate the ability to discern what is in our control, and what is out of our control. When our ego feels audacious, it may mistakenly decide that it has everything under control. On the other hand, when our ego is fearful, it may have the wrong impression that little or nothing is in our control. This is a life-long lesson.

2) Acceptance of how little is in our control: Acceptance is the mysterious answer. Acceptance what is’ is not a passive state, it’s an act of recognition that things are the way they are… It’s one of the most powerful places we can find ourselves in. This is where we learn to humbly accept our limits, and we let go of a sense of control and entitlement. Most of us are ONLY open to accept life on our terms – we accept life only “IF” we were healthy enough; thin enough; serene enough; financially stable enough; in love enough; fit enough; successful enough. In short, we tell ourselves that acceptance is a state of mind reserved for when life works the way we want it and expected, rather than the amazingly freeing ability to experience life every day just as it unfolds.

3) Shift Perspective: rather than seeing what is out of our control as simply unfortunate, we can explore the possibility of discovering the opportunity presented by life with curiosity and wonder.

4) Self-Compassion: We don’t fear risks. We fear how we will treat ourselves if a risk we take generates an unfavorable outcome Therefore, in order to accept life’s terms of living our desire, we will need to learn to forgive ourselves when our actions do not produce the expected results.

5) Letting Go: letting go of the things we cannot control, letting go of expectations, letting go of blame, letting go of complaint, letting go of self-pity, letting go of comparisons, letting go of denying, letting go of resisting, letting go of anger, letting go of agendas, and letting be our experience just be what it is.

6) Trust: Trust in a Power Greater Than Yourself. Trust there are so many things that are happening in an extraordinary way in our lives. Trust that we are equipped with everything we need to face whatever life throws at us. Trust that we will be guided to a prompt and positive solution to what we are dealing with.

7) Control How We Respond: we can decide how we are going to respond to what life brings to us, moment to moment. Exploring our choices, discovering the opportunities, and taking full responsibility for our decisions and actions, is key to living a life of empowerment, serenity, and freedom.

Let the light of our dreams and wishes illuminate the path we belong on. When our desire is accompanied by acceptance for that which lies beyond us, we agree to life’s terms, and live a life well lived.

Finding Your Inner Strength

by Veronica Vidal

Inner strength is a deep, unstoppable belief in yourself. It doesn’t depend on the actions of anyone else, and it doesn’t depend on your circumstances.

Finding inner strength is a must for your well-being. It will give you the ability to overcome obstacles and bounce back from failures – because failures are inevitable. However, it is inspiring to know that you really can do something to make yourself stronger. Since part of survival is accepting that you cannot change outside circumstances or people, it is imperative to accept and feel empowered by the realization that you can transform yourself.   It’s a superpower!

Here are some pointers to help you get there.

1) Don’t let the fear factor into your decision making
Some of us reject opportunities because of the fear that we can’t do it or fear that something might go wrong.  When considering the pros and cons of our decisions, we must be self-aware, too. Are you identifying risks or being just plain fearful? If fear is keeping you from the next step/adventure/challenge, then you are allowing it to defeat you. Fear can make you be your own worst enemy, getting in the way of your growth, development, and potential.

2) Embrace what scares you
This means proving that you can take on immense challenges, which will yield increased confidence and inner strength. Life can be a constant struggle between what you don’t think you can do (and remain in the status quo) and what you absolutely can do (progress). Inner strength comes from doing what you thought you couldn’t do. When you came out of your comfort for a challenge, change happens and the result is a better, stronger you.

3) Clear your mind
Even a few minutes of meditation a day removes the mental clutter that depletes your energy. It restores focus and clarity. People who meditate are one step ahead of others. Their minds move faster, they are mentally more clear and much more decisive.

4) Discover your purpose
Purpose is a component of inner strength. Ask yourself “Why?” Then find your answer. Greater focus on purpose cultivates the strength and motivation to tackle setbacks. When you find your purpose, inner strength naturally follows.

5) Let go of the past
Stop feeding yourself dis-empowering stories of past mistakes and failures. Change the script in your mind and only allow positive thoughts.

6) Look back on your survival instincts
Remind yourself of times when you survived, got through challenges, and even surprised yourself. See strength in your own abilities and fighting power. Don’t underestimate your own resilience. You have roared before and will roar again.

7) Develop and nurture a spiritual connection to a higher power, a purpose greater than this
Ask for spiritual guidance, comfort, and grounding in your journey. Stay open to receiving divine gifts in the most wonderful, surprising ways, and believe that you deserve them when they show up. Meditate. Pray. Be mindful. Trust that you are going to move past this thing and that the universe wants that for you as well.

Yes, it does. And yes, you can.

Continue to stay safe, strong, and serene as we transition to our new normal.
Your loving support, referrals, and loyalty fill me with immense gratitude.

With Infinite Love

Vero Vidal