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Just for Today

“What day is it?” asked Pooh.
“It’s today,” squeaked Piglet.
“My favorite day,” said Pooh.”     

― A.A. Milne

What does it mean to live just for today?
Just for Today-thinking reminds us that, we are expected no more than to do the things that we are able to do today.

By limiting our horizons to the next few hours, we will do, feel, say, or think ONLY what we are able to manage for this short period of time.
“Just for today” applies to all areas of our lives, as reality has to be dealt with on a daily basis.

“Just for today” way of thinking is very much rooted in yoga philosophy, and it allows us to live more at ease, with less worry, and less self-inflicted pressure. Living, just for today it is the most effective and quickest way of relieving stress, depression, and anxiety. We can adjust our attitudes to  self-care of a healthy lifestyle by  showing gratitude, managing emotions, and controlling fear,  so we are better prepared to handle the challenges of our lives.

We can find fulfillment and peace in living just for  today. Below are 7 coaching steps for you to start:

1)  Stay present. Be mindful to avoid ruminating about yesterday or obsessing about tomorrow.

2) Live for this day only and don’t try to overcome all your problems at once. Know that you can do something for 24 hours that would overwhelm you if you had to keep it up for a lifetime. Do not set far-reaching goals or try to overcome all my problems at once.

3) Improve what you can:  improve your mind by reading something that requires effort, thought and concentration. Do something positive to improve your health, improve your appearance, your  mental habits and your behaviors .

4) If you failed today, try again tomorrow. It’s all about a fresh start every day. If you failed to get things done today, then forgive yourself and move on.  If you didn’t fail, give yourself a high five and do it all again.

5)  Accept what is, and gather the courage to face reality. Do your best to correct those things that you can correct,  and accept those you cannot.

6) Be happy,  do not dwell on thoughts that put you down. When your mind fills with clouds, chase them away and fill it with sunshine.

7)  Block Out “What Ifs”: “what ifs” are the catalysts of worry  because they are  based on a “tomorrow focused” mindset.  Do your best to focus on the day you’re in, and deal with what you can control at the moment. Remind yourself that worrying about what might or could happen will do precisely nothing to change the future, it will only make you miserable now and divert your attention from being able to be present on what you need to do today.

Resolve to live just for today. The time is now. This is your present!

Please remember to let me know how these coaching tools work out for you.

With Love and Gratitude,

Veronica 

Finding Inner Peace

Inner peace is an internalized state of spiritual and mental calm, and it is not something we can just turn on, nor decide to do, and then do it. Inner peace is a lifelong journey that requires a lifetime commitment.

The search for inner peace must be an active part of our lives, because when the noise in your head quietens, then, the tangles of threads start coming apart, allowing us to see the space between our thoughts for the first time.  With so many distractions and interruptions posing to intrude in our lives, inner peace is the reliable inner temple, we can go to, to re-set our minds, and our spirits,  and actually reconnect with our true essence.

Inner peace is a process that provides us the silence we need to accept everything — our life, our career, our body, our everything — so we can truly and actionably continue growing better, and moving forward.

Below Find 9  VeroLifeCoaching Tools To Pave The Way For Inner Peace: (Join our daily online yoga session click here)

1. Accept what cannot be changed. This saves a lot of time, energy, and worries.  Work hard to change what must be changed, and if this is not possible, work hard to find acceptance, strength, and gratitude.

2. Cultivate patience and healthy tolerance with family, friends, co-workers, employees, and everyone else. Expressing patience and tolerance toward others is as good for others as it is for ourselves, because it enables us a peaceful state of mind and heart, even in stressful situations.

3. Don’t take everything too personally. A certain degree of emotional and mental detachment and non-involvement is a sure way to bring into our life more tranquility, lightness, and common sense.

4. Avoid overthinking,  and too much analyzing of every situation. Be aware of running from one thought to another, constantly ruminating about some past incident,  and what people said or did.

5. Keep a focused mind.  Focusing the mind makes it easier to reject worries and anxieties, and to reduce the constant chatter of the mind.

6. Commune with Mother Nature-Get out for a 5 minute walk every day. Set the intention to be mindful of the green trees, the flowers, the birds, the sky, the breeze kissing your skin. You will come back recharged, and calm.

7. Read uplifting literature. Before going to bed, read something motivational or inspirational. It calms your mind, uplifts your spirit, and will even help you to get a good night’s sleep.

8. Practice meditation, even just a few minutes a day will make a difference in your life. You will become more peaceful, relaxed, and happier.

9.  Develop your spiritual practice.  Make time to connect to your understanding of a Loving Higher Power, and release your worries. Trust you’re not alone. Trust there’s a Higher Power with a Higher Purpose. Be like a child in the hands of a loving parent, where you can relax your mind, emotions, and soul.

Finding inner peace is a process that requires dedication, awareness, and patience. A process well worth the investment to achieve that state of tranquility and quiet in spite of the circumstances.

Give these coaching tools a fair try and let me know how they work.

With Love and Gratitude,

Veronica

Embracing Uncertainty

By Veronica Vidal

Uncertainty can keep us up at night, obsessing over ways to protect ourselves from anything that might go wrong…. Or it can motivate us to practice acceptance, live in the moment, and embrace the adventure of living.

We don’t know … what’s coming tomorrow might not be easy—or it might fulfill us in ways we didn’t even imagine. What’s certain is that it will come and when it gets here, we will respond to it, learn from it, and move into another tomorrow full of endless possibilities.

If you ever think you’ve created a controllable, predictable life for yourself, you can rest assured that’s an illusion. Nothing stays the same forever. Life is full of uncertainty.

To our rational mind, when an existing pattern of expectations is not met it can be unsettling and cause fear, anxiety, and frustration. To relieve our worries and disappointments we must re-frame our assumptions so that we can adapt to new conditions. It’s no good fooling ourselves that everything is under control. Accepting uncertainty is a challenge, but it can stop us from living in a limbo state of confusion. The thing about uncertainty is that despite our plans we seldom end up where we expected. Embracing uncertainty is an essential component of well-being because it provides a foundation for mental calmness. One day at a time, let us focus on our possibilities, not our fears, and suddenly, we will feel a lot better.

Embracing Uncertainty is to accept paradox and ambiguity with humility and curiosity. Maybe it’s better to accept what cannot be changed, and adapt to what is emerging than to resent the inevitable.” ~ Steve Trivett

The following 8 steps will help you to embrace uncertainty

1) Replace expectations with plans. When you form expectations, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. You can guide your tomorrow, but you can’t control the exact outcome. If you expect the worst, you’ll probably feel too negative and closed-minded to notice and seize opportunities. If you expect the best, you’ll create a vision that’s hard to live up to.

What is in my hands is what I plan—what I will actively do to find balance, and live the life I want.

2. Prepare for different possibilities. The most difficult part of uncertainty is the inability to feel in control. However, one can plan for the possibilities. One can make a list for what one would do if “A” happens versus “B” or “C”.. All we really need is a basic plan and the flexibility to embrace change if necessary.

3. Become a feeling observer. It isn’t the uncertainty that really bothers us; it’s our tendency to get lost in our feelings about it. The second we start indulging fear, we get lost in a cycle of reactionary thoughts. “What if …” leads to “How I am going to manage to…?” Before you know it, we have somehow traveled all the way to a complete tragedy in our minds.

The point is that speculation leads to feelings, which can lead to more speculation and then more feelings. It helps to stop the cycle by recognizing the feeling—in that case, fear—and then remembering that we can’t possibly predict the future, but we can help create it, by fostering positive feelings about the possibilities.

4. Get confident about your coping and adapting skills. It’s more about assuring yourself that you can handle any difficulty that might come. To help you manage anxiety, ask yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen?” and answer your self how could you deal with that worst-case scenario, which makes the uncertainty a little less scary.

In her book, The Positive Power of Negative Thinking, Julie K. Norem discusses the concept of defensive pessimism—when you consider the worst so you can plan how you’d handle it. This has actually shown to help people manage anxiety.

5. Utilize stress reduction techniques preemptively. If you’re dealing with uncertainty, you probably have stress in your body, even if it’s not at the forefront of your thoughts at this exact moment. Over time, that body stress affects blood pressure, blood sugar, muscle tension, cholesterol level, breathing rate, and every organ in your body.

Incorporate stress reduction techniques into your day, such as yoga, breathing techniques, relaxation, and meditation, even if just five to ten minutes daily. Finding your center will help you feel better prepared to tackle whatever comes your way.

6. Focus on what you can control. Oftentimes, we overlook the little things we can do to make life easier while obsessing about the big things we can’t do. Focus on a short-term solution, stop complaining, and start some motion now, so that you can make this situation more bearable.

7. Practice mindfulness. Observe when your thoughts go into the uncertain future and bring them back to the present moment. When you obsess about a tomorrow you can’t control, you’re too busy judging what hasn’t happened yet to fully experience what’s happening right now. Instead of noticing and appreciating the beauty in the moment, you get trapped in a fear-driven thought cycle about the potential for discomfort down the line.

8. Reconnect with the blessings in your life. Focus on the gifts that you are enjoying at this moment, Even thinking about gratitude offers a profound sense of strength and tranquility.

“Uncertainty is the only certainty there is, and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security.” ~John Allen Paulos

Continue to stay safe, strong, and serene as we transition to our new normal.

Your loving support, referrals, and loyalty fill me with immense gratitude.

With Infinite Love

Vero Vidal
www.VeroVidal.com

9 Tips For Living Stress-Free

By Veronica Vidal

We all deal with stress in some form in our lives. Our job, a family illness, money troubles, kids issues, and so much more.

These are common triggers. However, stress is different for everyone. What stresses you out may not even bother someone else, and vice versa. Still, our bodies react the same to stressors. That’s because the stress response is our body’s way of dealing with tough or demanding situations. It causes hormonal, respiratory, cardiovascular, and nervous system changes. This is known as the body’s “fight-or-flight response.” It’s this chemical reaction that prepares our body for a physical reaction because it thinks it’s under attack. Because stress will always be part of our lives in one way or another, we need to know how to manage it day-to-day.

The good news is that we can all learn how to handle stress and lead a happier healthier life. Here are some reminders to help you experience less stress and more calmness in your life:

1) Am I Stressed? ~ Recognize Stress
The first step to reducing your stress is recognizing you are stressed. Since we are always dealing with stress in many forms it can sometimes be hard to recognize. Sometimes you might be able to tell right away when you’re feeling under stress. Many people need a health care professional to tell them their back pain or chronic headaches are a result of stress, not another issue. The important thing is to start by asking yourself or to begin to look for signs or symptoms of stress.

2) Set priorities for your life
Focus on what’s important. Let the other stuff go. Also, identify tasks that you can share or delegate, then ask for help. Set limits appropriately and learn to say no to requests that would create excessive stress in your life.

3) Avoid Perfectionism
Remember, things don’t have to be perfect. Sometimes “good enough” is just fine.

4) Accept that there are events that you cannot control.
Practice acceptance of things you cannot change, Keep a positive attitude.

5) Get enough rest and sleep.
Your body needs time to recover from stressful events. Further, the lack of sleep itself is a stress trigger factor. 7 to 9 hours of sleep, and if needed, try to squeeze in a nap in. Get your “z”s

6) Don’t rely on alcohol, drugs, or compulsive behaviors to reduce stress
One of the biggest problems people face is they rely on poor coping mechanisms. While stress eating or binge drinking alcohol may temporarily provide some stress relief, they do not solve the underlying issue. Likewise, they end up causing more stress in the long term. Find a reliable and healthy way to relieve the stress in your life.

7) Practice Yoga, Relaxation and Meditation
Yoga practice, relaxation techniques, and mindfulness meditation can improve your concentration and regulate your mood, which will make you better able to cope with stress. Focusing on your breathing during yoga can do wonders for both your body and your mind.

8) Reframe your view of the situation:
Not necessarily changing the facts, but reframing how you think about the facts.

9) Make time for hobbies, interests, and relaxation.
Laugh! Look for the humor in your everyday life, or watch a funny video. Listen to music. Choose tunes that relax or revive you. Dance at home, sing alone, connect within, and be lighthearted!

Continue to stay safe, strong, and serene as we transition to our new normal.
Your loving support, referrals, and loyalty fill me with immense gratitude.

With Infinite Love

Vero Vidal
www.VeroVidal.com