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Living On Life’s Terms

What does living life on life’s terms mean?

In a few words, living our life’s on life’s terms is basically the acceptance of who we are, with our desires and dreams, while honoring the mystery and vastness of fate.

When fate is an impediment to our desires, we get the amazing opportunity to learn. We get creative, discover and new avenues to get us what we want. We learn about love, compassion, self- awareness, forgiveness, patience, and faith.

Living on life terms means realizing that we cannot avoid suffering, trials and losses, but we can find meaning in them to move forward with renewed purpose and more serenity.

What abilities do we need to cultivate to be living on life’s terms?

1) Discernment: We need to cultivate the ability to discern what is in our control, and what is out of our control. When our ego feels audacious, it may mistakenly decide that it has everything under control. On the other hand, when our ego is fearful, it may have the wrong impression that little or nothing is in our control. This is a life-long lesson.

2) Acceptance of how little is in our control: Acceptance is the mysterious answer. Acceptance what is’ is not a passive state, it’s an act of recognition that things are the way they are… It’s one of the most powerful places we can find ourselves in. This is where we learn to humbly accept our limits, and we let go of a sense of control and entitlement. Most of us are ONLY open to accept life on our terms – we accept life only “IF” we were healthy enough; thin enough; serene enough; financially stable enough; in love enough; fit enough; successful enough. In short, we tell ourselves that acceptance is a state of mind reserved for when life works the way we want it and expected, rather than the amazingly freeing ability to experience life every day just as it unfolds.

3) Shift Perspective: rather than seeing what is out of our control as simply unfortunate, we can explore the possibility of discovering the opportunity presented by life with curiosity and wonder.

4) Self-Compassion: We don’t fear risks. We fear how we will treat ourselves if a risk we take generates an unfavorable outcome Therefore, in order to accept life’s terms of living our desire, we will need to learn to forgive ourselves when our actions do not produce the expected results.

5) Letting Go: letting go of the things we cannot control, letting go of expectations, letting go of blame, letting go of complaint, letting go of self-pity, letting go of comparisons, letting go of denying, letting go of resisting, letting go of anger, letting go of agendas, and letting be our experience just be what it is.

6) Trust: Trust in a Power Greater Than Yourself. Trust there are so many things that are happening in an extraordinary way in our lives. Trust that we are equipped with everything we need to face whatever life throws at us. Trust that we will be guided to a prompt and positive solution to what we are dealing with.

7) Control How We Respond: we can decide how we are going to respond to what life brings to us, moment to moment. Exploring our choices, discovering the opportunities, and taking full responsibility for our decisions and actions, is key to living a life of empowerment, serenity, and freedom.

Let the light of our dreams and wishes illuminate the path we belong on. When our desire is accompanied by acceptance for that which lies beyond us, we agree to life’s terms, and live a life well lived.

Finding Peace in Difficult Times

When a community is hit by a natural disaster, a shooting or a large societal issue, lives are lost or shattered by physical injury, the loss of homes and jobs. We try to make sense of what happened and deal with the stress of the situation.

Through these challenging times…

We become resilient

            We seek options

                        We don’t give up.

In spite of how much we try, we cannot pretend everything is just fine because things aren’t fine. These events create a tremendous amount of stress and anxiety for those directly and indirectly affected.  And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with feeling the emotional impact; we’re human and after a major traumatic event, it is ‘normal’ to feel stressed and have difficulty managing our feelings.

There’s so much bad happening to so many that focusing on the positive and not letting these chaotic events get us down, could be very challenging to most of us.

At the same time, I know that the way we feel individually impacts the collective mind. A joint vibration of panic and hopelessness has the ability to invite others to feel panic and hopeless in record time.

However, you may ask:  how can we rise above these tragedies while at the same time we give honor and respect to those affected by them?

The fact is that if we are wishing to contribute to any improvement of any kind, we must start finding peace within ourselves. We can make a positive impact in our immediate environment (family, friends, neighbors, clients, co-workers) by bringing out our sense of hope, strength and resilience.

By redirecting our mindset we can generate a new and positive ripple effect which will reach beyond our understanding.

As Mahatma Gandhi said: “You Must Be The Change You Want To See In The World”

We must draw strength from places of PEACE.  We can start by managing our stress, anger or depression in healthy ways through our faith or spirituality, volunteering, exercising, meditating, even singing, and enjoying time with friends, family, and pets.

Taking life ONE DAY AT A TIME with the help of relaxation, meditation and breathing techniques at some point before the day is over can make a huge difference in our outlook to life.

Most of us think that we are too busy to invest our time in any of these practices. However, we fail to realize how much time we spend in worrying, sleepless nights, and looking for cures to our sense of helplessness, anxiety, and desperation. When in fact,  the healthier we are, and the more relaxed we feel, the more available we would be to help not only ourselves but also, those in need.

One very efficient and healthy way to access a deep state of relaxation during difficult times is the powerful practice of the Yoga Nidra technique. (Download English Version or Spanish Version)

YOGA NIDRA is also known as “Psychic Sleep” because it takes us to the – alpha state of mind, (that state of mind where we naturally go every night right before we fall asleep, and every morning just before we are fully awake). The best thing about this practice is that you can do it in the comfort of your own bed at night before you go to sleep.

Yoga Nidra is a powerful approach that I learned in India and put together for you. It will assist you in gaining clarity of mind,  eliminating anxiety, dealing with depression, conquering insomnia, and managing stress.

You can download this effective guided meditation on your phone or any mobile device. (Versions in English and Spanish)

I believe that we can change the vibration of the planet one person at a time,  and, that you and I can make a difference by finding peace within. As John Lennon said, “You may say I am a dreamer, but I am not the only one”.

With Love,

Veronica Vidal

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